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Heartbreak Warfare

When I signed in last night, I was greeted with “Love is a losing battle”. When pressed to whom she was battling, She replied “men”. When pressed she replied “the ones that I talk to”.

Love isn’t easy, but it sure as hell ain’t a losing battle until someone admits defeat. One of my personal mantras has always been “don’t quit until it’s hopeless”.

A good relationship is like a good house. Without a strong foundation, it will fall, without a comfortable midsection, it won’t stay comfortable to be in, and without a good insulation, you won’t be protected from the outside. I’m speaking metaphorically of course, but really. A relationship takes time and effort to build and maintain. I believe everyone who dates should be at a point in the relationship where outside forces have no effect on the relationship!

I’m someone who made a mistake earlier. I was a cheater, and I stopped. Because I loved the girl I was with. Anything is possible if your will is strong enough. That is true, at least relationship wise.

One thing I found out, is you cannot change anyone but yourself. You have the power to change anything, by changing yourself. I’m not saying act a certain way to get something or someone, but if there is a bad habit preventing you from being happy, change it! Smoker? Quit! Alcoholic? Pour the booze out! Chronically late? Get yourself a planner and leave earlier! It is all how badly you want to change.

Mind over matter. If your mind is strong enough, matter won’t matter.

You’ve seen people survive years past what doctors say is possible, why? They will tell you, will power. If you truly want something with all your heart, your willpower will help you make it happen. Only when you believe something is impossible is it.

If you resign yourself to defeat, you will never win. Just IMHO.

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Figured Something Out

I was talking with my best friend Steve on the way home today. He had to give me a ride due to Silvia’s condition at the moment…

We got to talking about women and we came to a realization. Women talk to their Friends about their relationships, if you’re dating a woman, they can’t talk to you about that, so they’ll talk to you about boring shit, you know how I know even they think it’s boring?

Even they can’t tell when we’re paying attention! Hey, quick tip, IF YOU FOUND IT BORING, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK WE’LL FIND IT INTERESTING?!

Women, all women, when they talk about their relationship, they’ll talk to someone not quite completely removed but close enough to the situation that they have an inkling of what’s going on… Because they want someone to agree with them!

No matter how much you think you know about someone else’s relationship, I’ll bet you a million dollars you don’t know as much as the people actually involved with the relationship! I don’t care if you’re best buds or girlfriends, you don’t know the whole story! Because no one ever tells the whole story!

I feel that if a woman wants to talk about their relationship, they should be able to talk about it with their better half! Seriously, if it’s affecting his or her life, she/he deserves to know what’s coming so they can act accordingly.

My ex dumped me without talking to me. She talked to her family, her friends, her dance friends, pretty much everyone but myself. I can’t change it, but it was something that made me sad.

If you’ve dated someone for more than a month, you should have the confidence to discuss your relationship with the one you’re dating. If it’s been more than a month, they deserve to know if you’ve kept them around.

Just my own personal opinions.